This past weekend, I took my oldest daughter to a high school drama competition. This was her second year competing. A brief psychological summary of said daughter: she typically doesn’t try very hard, because she hates to fail. “Mom,” she has said, “if you nag me to do my homework and I do it, you’ll just nag me more in the future.”
I’ve tried to move her beyond this mindset for years. At last year’s drama competition, she refused to work on her monologue during the two day competition.